It’s Not Me, It’s You

June 26, 2016 books, reviews 2

cover of it's not me it's you by mhairi mcfarlane

An achingly funny story about how to be your own hero when life pulls the rug out from under your feet. From the author of the bestselling YOU HAD ME AT HELLO

Delia Moss isn’t quite sure where she went wrong.

When she proposed and discovered her boyfriend was sleeping with someone else – she thought it was her fault.

When she realised life would never be the same again – she thought it was her fault.

And when he wanted her back life nothing had changed – Delia started to wonder if perhaps she was not to blame…

From Newcastle to London and back again, with dodgy jobs, eccentric bosses and annoyingly handsome journalists thrown in, Delia must find out where her old self went – and if she can ever get her back.

– from goodreads

I’ve become very reliant on goodreads and my fellow bloggers’ reviews the past few years. I can usually tell whether I’ll like a book by a combination of my own interest in the blurb and whether the people who have a similar taste in books liked it. Every once in a while, however, I’ll still pop into a bookstore and just buy whatever looks good. This was one of those cases. I absolutely loved the cover and the title and it sounded like a light, fun read.

The weird thing is, it’s been lying around on my shelf for ages and then a few weeks after I decided to move to Newcastle I pick it up – only to realize that it’s (partly) set in Newcastle! I’ve literally never read a book set there. I can’t even remember a book that mentioned the city to be honest. It seemed a good omen, and I did, in fact, really end up liking the book.

So let me tell you what it is about this book that’s so great. I’ll be honest with you, even despite the Newcastle thing, I wasn’t sure whether I’d like it at first. It took me a while to get into the writing style, and it didn’t really flow for me at first. Throw in some genretypical plot about cheating and mixed up text messages, and I wasn’t even sure whether I wanted to keep going.

Two things kept me reading though:

1. The Humor

There are some great lines, and I laughed out loud several times throughout the book. Delia is very witty, and the writing style is funny without trying too hard.

2. The Characters

Most of all Delia, the main character. She went through all the typical stages of what did I do wrong, can I save the relationship, I need to find out who I am,… but she always felt real and the relationships she had with people made sense. I really loved her as a character, because she doesn’t make excuses for herself or other people, she holds herself and others accountable, and she truly strives to be the best version of herself she can be. I understood her decisions and motivations, and, more than that, I genuinely liked her, because she was kind, funny, creative and mostly non-judgemental when it came to her friends.

Even when characters were assholes, their actions were explained (except maybe for the main “villain”) and I didn’t really dislike anyone (again, exempting the bad guy). Everyone who was important in Delia’s life and played a bigger role in the story was a person I understood. Even when I hated their decisions, I didn’t hate the character.

So what about the plot?

The plot was a little done, but it was well executed. I don’t mind to read about typical scenarios (nothing new under the sun and all that) when they’re handled well, and this definitely was. Thankfully, the book wasn’t always as predictable as I first thought it would be, and there were a lot of times when I wasn’t quite sure how something would turn out.

The book is fairly long. I didn’t mind the length too much, because it was such fun reading, but there were a few short parts where the book dragged a little, which could have been fixed by some clever editing.


Delia is a comic artist and there are a few pages of the comic she draws sprinkled throughout the book, which I thought was really cool.


I could easily imagine a sequel for this. I really enjoyed reading it, and I loved Delia as a character. The light and fun writing was balanced by a few more serious scenes, but at the end I was left with that warm and fuzzy feeling I was hoping for. I could see fans of Sophie Kinsella enjoying this book. Definitely recommend!

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2 Responses to “It’s Not Me, It’s You”

  1. Valerie

    Wow I think it’s really cool that this has comics scattered in it! I feel like if I were to find myself in her situation, I would also question myself a lot. I’m glad you liked this! This might not be the book for me because of the plot, but I think I would definitely pick it up if I owned it or saw it at the library. Delia sounds like a wonderful character :)
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