Secret Life of- ME! PICK ME!

September 3, 2015 fun, miscellaneous 13

Hello my bloggly friends!

Shannon tagged me for The Secret Life of a Book Blogger Tag (at least that’s what I think it’s called? I feel like it keeps changing names), so I decided to let you in on some blogging secrets. And by secrets I mean the stuff I say publicly on the internet.

Let’s begin! (Whenever I type that sentence it sounds like Let’s Begin from Linkin Park’s Cure for the Itch in my head. I know, relevant information you need to know.)

How long have you been a blogger?

DEFINE blogger. Do you mean the various craptastic, whiny blogs I had as a teenager that no one read? Or maybe the livejournal I had because all the fandom people were on livejournal back in the day (I’m singing tumblr killed the livejournal to the tune of video killed the radio star in my head now, but the syllables don’t fit. More relevant information for you right there)?

I guess I started blogging “seriously” (I’m putting it in quotes because we all know there’s nothing serious about this blog other than my love for brackets) last year when I created a travel blog to chronicle my time in Colombia. Turns out I spent a lot of time reading and not doing much of anything there, so I didn’t feel like bracing the hostel wifi to blog that much. Also, I stopped blogging once I got home, because I was a rebel, and that’s totally not how 99% of travel blogs end up. I started this blog last August after thinking about subjects I could blog about for longer than four weeks and that was that.

People think a lot of things. Like that the last two seasons of your show weren’t worth watching, but let’s not get personal.

At what point do you think you’ll stop?

I expect I’ll stop once I get famous. I’ll forget all about you then. Until that time in the naturally very near future, let’s just keep doing this, ‘aight?

I expect you do.

What is the best thing?

Connecting with people! Comments! Writing the posts! Expressing myself! Getting my ego stroked when someone likes something I wrote!

What is the worst thing? What do you do to make it okay?

Okay fine, I’ll answer. Of course, it sucks when I’m proud of a post I wrote and not a lot of people comment on it, but I think we all know that feeling. Unless you’re reading this and you don’t have a blog, but I’m sure in that case you have other problems. How do you deal with your feelings? Do you like…talk to people or something?

I think the worst for me is when I don’t feel motivated to blog, or just don’t have the energy. What I do to make it better is that I remind myself it’s something I do for fun, and that I don’t HAVE to do. If I really don’t feel like it, I’ll disappear for a couple of days or weeks. I do feel unnecessarily guilty when I haven’t blogged in a while, but no one’s gonna die if I take a break. I mean lots of people will, but not because of my blogging break. Almost as bad is when I WANT to blog, but don’t have a lot of time to do it. In that case, I’ll try to make the time when I can and go crazy on twitter otherwise. It’s MICRO blogging for MICRO amounts of time.

Oh, sweet little Jay. You know nothing about life.

How long does it take you to create/find pictures to use?

Oh, not that long.

aaaand there it went. Meanwhile I’m still looking for the perfect gif to answer this. Something with the desert and skeletons to show how much time passed, what do you think?

Who is your book crush?

Surprisingly, I don’t have one. I’m pretty sure I used to. I LOVE witty, funny, sarcastic characters though! I think it’s the one reason I still like Jace, despite all of his stereotypical woe is me, but I’m not gonna tell you what’s wrong, so we can have giant misunderstandings to put off our happy end until book three. Oh no, let’s make that book six. Also, my hair is shiny.

Yes, that’s Tom Felton (with a surprise Daniel Radcliffe appearance), but the guy who played Jace in the movie didn’t do it for me, so there ya go.

What author would you like to have on your blog?

Richelle Mead, because she used to come up with funny conspiracy theories about her neighbours back in the day, so she might as well give us an update here (I was going to link to her blog to show you, but livejournal was down. Oh, the irony, see #1).

It was just a question. Jeez.

What do you wear when you write your blog posts?

Kidding, lol.

How long does it take you to prepare?

…I don’t. Does anyone? I guess this is the equivalent of my “What’s your favorite lighting to read by?” question in my How do You Read Link Up that confused everyone, because it only made sense to me. By everyone I mean the two people who did it, but THAT’S NOT THE POINT OF THIS ANSWER.

How do you feel about the book blogger community?

Hang on, is this from one of the two Bollywood movies I actually know? I’m so culturally educated.

What do you think one should do to get a successful blog?

Absolutely do what everyone else does. I mean if they’re successful doing it, why shouldn’t you be? Just copy everything exactly, and success will be right around the corner! (I’m kidding, if you really don’t know what to do it’s totally fine to get inspiration elsewhere as long as you don’t outright steal stuff without giving credit or something idiotic like that. You’ll find your own voice eventually!)

Right, okay. I polled my 3000 followers to see what they had to say, and this is what they came up with:

  • INTERACT. Reply to your comments! Comment on other people’s blogs! Let the (blogging) world know you’re there and you appreciate it. Blogging is much more fun when you’re part of a community!
  • Be kind and respectful. If you disagree that’s fine, just don’t be a jerk about it. Do I even need to say this? Probably not, these aren’t YouTube comments.
  • Find people with common interests. Someone else who’s into books AND French cinema of the 1930s AND naked horsebackriding? Hold onto them like you’re Devil’s Snare and they’re a helpless first year
  • Write about what you want to write and have FUN

Or stick to them. Breaking rules can be quite scary. OR stick to them on even days and break them on uneven ones. Life’s all about balance.

Also, don’t listen to random people’s advice on the internet except for mine. You do you. For example, I could read a post giving me advice on how to get as many hits as possible, but it wouldn’t be of that much use to me, because I don’t measure my blogging success in hits. Personally, I measure it in interaction and thoughtful comments by awesome people and the fun I have doing it all. That’s not to say that there’s anything wrong with caring about hits and stats and followers – I do too! If you’re primary goal is to get as many hits as possible, then a little advice from someone who’s more experienced probably isn’t going to hurt. But if it’s not, you might want to look elsewhere, or come up with your own rules.

Aaaand that’s a wrap.

Unless you have to save the world or something. See ya, wouldn’t wanna be ya!

I tag…

If you’ve already done it or don’t want to, don’t despair. I won’t mutter your names every night before sleep Arya Stark style. Probably.

Do YOU have book crushes? What do you think makes a successful blog? What’s the best thing about blogging for you?

13 Responses to “Secret Life of- ME! PICK ME!”

  1. Olivia Roach

    Ahaha loved reading this! Thanks so much for the tag as well <3

    I didn't know you started off with a travel blog? I don't think I would be able to keep one of those up… and wouldn't it be expensive. Gosh, now that I think about it, how DO travel blogs keep traveling all the time?

    All your hints and tips about the blogging world are basically what I share as well <3 I love the community and how people talk and comment and support each other. It does get me down a little when I have a post that no one comments on. It feels like when you say something in a conversation but no one hears and they just keep talking… if that makes sense :P
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    • Vlora


      My pleasure! And happy you liked reading it. :)

      IKR? I think the only travel blogs that are successful are the ones where the person who runs it travels all the time. I mean there ARE definitely things you can post about when you’re not travelling that are related (like the annoying people on trains thing I did, or how to find cheap flights or best places to go out where you live or things like that), but I think it would just be hard to stay enthusiastic about it all year round? I don’t know, but the second time I started a blog I tried to make sure it would be something that I could blog about all the time. I’m sure if I had kept posting to the travel blog, it would have just morphed into a general blog over time!

      YES that absolutely makes sense! It’s that akward moment when no one even responds to what you said and you feel totally insignificant. I think EVERYONE who has a blog has experienced it at some point or another though. Yay, I’m glad you like my blogging tips, because I wasn’t actually sure I’m qualified to give them. :D
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  2. Alyssa

    Thank you for tagging me! I’ve had my eye on this one for a while, so I’m looking forward to doing it :D

    I didn’t actually have a blog before my current one, but argh, was it horrible in its early thrashing stages. Just, NOPE. Comments are totally the best — the blogging community is the BEST. (Pfft, I like basically all your posts, so tell your ego to relax.) But yeah, blogging slumps — and slumps of all kinds, really — are the worst because it’s just: w h y. You like doing this, you just don’t want to do it right now. gaaaaah.
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    • Vlora


      AWESOME, have fun with it! :D Tagging people is always like ugggh has this person just done this yesterday and I forgot? Are they totally tired of tags? Did I forget anyone who would maybe like to do it? CUE CRISIS. :D I love when I catch someone who actually wanted to do it haha.

      Oh good god, don’t even START with early blogging stages. If I think back to my design then, I just cringe SO MUCH. It’s a learning experience! And THANKS for the additional compliments there. See, that’s why I love brackets. Not in books just in posts. That’s where the relevant information is. Yeah exactly – it’s something I enjoy doing, so why am I in a slump? Thankfully it always goes away eventually!
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    • Vlora



      Glad I’m not the only one! Ah, Ron. I started rewatching Philosopher’s Stone yesterday and Rupert Grint just nails all the awkwardness and funny and sincerety. It really isn’t the same. Own up to your inner (or outer) crazy cat lady and buy those cat sweaters, Jackie! :D
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  3. Romi

    Vloraaaaa. You win at the gifs. This was not only hilarious in your writing, but the gifs added so much, especially your double answer to “what do you wear” because— ? Perf.

    It’s so interesting to learn about others blogging process, whether that be how they started, what they started off doing, or how they blog now. You started off as a travel blog? Aah! So neat. It’s interesting that it turned to book blogging, although the fact books aren’t your sole focus is something I enjoy because it makes for a really enjoyable and different experience. I like seeing peoples other passions shine through, not just books. xx
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  4. Shannon @ It Starts At Midnight

    Peeta is my LIFE crush. Forget book crush. I want all the Peeta right now. And by Peeta, I absolutely mean that Josh should call me. Maybe he likes older women? A girl can dream…

    Wait, what were we talking about? OH right, Video Killed the Radio Star. Yeah, it works if you say Tumble-er Killed the LiveJournal Star. Because I am doing it right now. Just make Tumblr two syllables is what I am saying. DO IT.

    I don’t know what makes a successful blog. Well, I kind of do. Three things:
    1. Hard work (because let’s face it, you DO have to work at it)
    2. Creativity (insanity is a good substitute if you’re low on creativity)
    3. Luck. I am sorry, but some people have neither of the first two and just freaking lucked into it. Those are the people we make voodoo dolls of, right?

    The best thing about blogging is my homies. Yep, I said homies. Like, Brittany Murphy, circa “Clueless” singing “Rollin with my Homies”. You’re welcome.
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